Feeling pretty is not a job requirement for 105.7 The Point radio show host, Lux, but on occasions like PointFest, she will take the opportunity to dress up, something she loves to do, knowing that video interviews have quickly turned in part of his job. . While the men at her station don jeans and a T-shirt for PointFest, Lux opts for something nicer – in this case, a tight pink dress and jacket, one that complements her hair color.
There was no way of knowing that the monochrome outfit would bring vitriol out of social media, but what started out as a negative moment has turned into an opportunity for mental health awareness.
When Lux posted a photo on Facebook of herself at the event, she left it unattended as she went about her day job, interviewing bands like Shinedown, and enjoying the event. When she re-shared the photo of her and Shinedown after her interview, she opened the comment section on the original post. The comments struck a chord.
One man had commented on the way she looked, specifically her body and how she “called Jenny Craig.” When asked for further explanation by another commenter, another troll added “he’s gotten carried away and needs to lose a few pounds.”
Lux’s scrolling continued, this time with another man commenting on how far apart the eyes are from the radio personality and that she was “trying to show off a below-average A cleavage.”
“For whatever reason, the way the comments were presented really shocked me in a way that told me I had to stand up for myself,” Lux says in an interview with the RFT. “At the very least, to raise awareness that I am one of the many millions of people who deal with these kinds of things and the damage they can actually cause. When you think you’re just making sarcastic or funny comments online, you have no idea what it does to the other person on the other side. ”
Lux has struggled with mental health issues and is recovering from an eating disorder. He has lost a friend to suicide. Because of these experiences, the radio show host has walked and raised money for years for the Missouri chapter of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. The comments hit as Lux prepares to walk again on September 26, prompting her to draw attention to trolls.
“When you have people saying that kind of thing to you, it adds to low self-esteem, low self-confidence and self-esteem, depression, sadness, loneliness, anger, all those emotions that are risk factors for suicide,” Lux explains. “So I thought, ‘Well, I’m walking, I’m raising money. And at the very least, I also need to remind people that these kinds of words weigh a lot. You don’t know where anyone is, what they are dealing with in their life. And, you know, even getting a couple of these a week can be very, very damaging. ‘
The radio show personality says that he receives between ten and twenty comments like this a week, but he couldn’t get rid of these for some reason.
As a target of trolling and harassment, she notes that the impact of those comments accumulates over time. “Your body still gets that kind of punch, that criticism, that shame, that shame, that shame, whatever,” he says.
Lux adds that while her male counterparts on the station have also been embarrassed by their body, sexism towards women’s appearance cannot be ignored. She credits her colleagues for providing them with a support system. Still, you find that many people seem to view bullying as part of their job, or that you are inviting scrutiny of your body because you are in the media industry.
“The old phrase ‘face for radio’ comes from the fact that we weren’t used to being seen. So we don’t really care about this, ”Lux says with a smile. “And now that I’m out there all the time, I’m enjoying it. I’m happy to use the platform to explore creativity and talk about the causes that matter. ”
The recent examples of body shame that she has shared publicly have received a wave of support from her fans and her band. Shine down. Lux has turned the moment into awareness of the way these comments can affect people.
He has drawn the attention of his followers to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, an organization close to his heart, in posts about the upcoming walk. Executive Director Robert Gabbia says in a press release that suicide awareness walks that Lux actively participates in can help turn “hope into action.” Last year, the walks raised $ 25 million for the foundation’s education and advocacy programs.
The Missouri walk iteration, called Out of the Darkness and which took place practically last year due to COVID-19, had 1,255 participants and raised more than $ 180,000.
“We hope that as we walk, we will bring attention to this issue and prevent other families from experiencing a loss by suicide,” says Kellen Wolters, co-chair of the board of the Missouri section of the foundation, in a news release. “Our ultimate goal is to save lives and give hope to those affected by suicide.”
The mission of raising awareness is also unfolding in digital spaces. Instagram has become a place where Lux speaks candidly about her mental health issues. After receiving the comments, she shared a TikTok video about her experience with body shame on her platform; So far, the video has attracted nearly 15,000 views and hundreds of comments on Instagram. She continues to scoff at the comments, a creative way not to hold back her feelings, she says.
Making videos is just one way to deal with the impact of body shame. Lux notes that “talking saves lives” is one of AFSP’s mottos, which is what it strives to do by being open on its platforms. For her, it is making “silly” videos, but for others it could be writing it. The goal is twofold, Lux explains, to bring out the feelings, but also to talk about the problems and “feel comfortable and not embarrassed by them.”
Lux says she made the videos to address the situation publicly and “teach people to be nice.” When asked if trolls ever apologize, she replies that while it’s shocking, it does happen. She says they sometimes come over to apologize and tell her that what they said sounded horrible. Other times, they try to explain what they wanted to say.
“I love having those conversations,” says Lux. “It is more important than ever now that we allow each other to evolve. We are all going to intervene. We are all going to stumble. We are all going to fall. We’re all going to make mistakes, but if you’re willing to acknowledge it and then really make the effort to make that change, I think it takes some serious guts, some balls to step back in my DMs and say, ‘You know what? That wasn’t great. ‘
Lux will participate in the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention Walk on September 26. You can sign up to join the walk at the organization’s website and participate in Creve Coeur Lake from 12 noon to 3:30 pm or donate to the cause at support.afsp.org.
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